“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning.”
– T.S. Eliot
It’s crazy to think that 2018 is right around the corner. I remember, almost too clearly, saying goodbye to 2016 and welcoming 2017 with open arms. Only being back in NYC for a little over a month, I was anxious to see what this year would bring. I previously lived in Los Angeles with the hopes of starting a new life and knocking down doors to advance in my career. I moved back to NYC abruptly, and to be honest, I wasn’t that ecstatic about it. Keeping an open mind was my only New Year’s resolution. I didn’t want to make promises to myself that I wasn’t sure I could keep. My spirit needed to be free of the burden of all the things I promised to do (or not do). I aimed to be free, to explore, and ultimately find my way organically.
As 2017 comes to a close, I look back at what an incredible year it has been. Leaving myself open and free for whatever came my way was the best choice I made. I learned so much about myself and about life. At 27 years of age, I was only now coming into my own and it was all thanks to 2017. This year showed me what letting go and freedom could bring me. I called it the #YearOfQuin and that’s exactly what it was. There were some dark days, of course, but those days only made it more spectacular when I found the light. Here are the biggest lessons I learned:
Run Your Race
Everything you want and need will come when you’re absolutely ready to receive it. Until then use the extra time for reflection and growth.
You Control You
I grappled with who I really am and who I allowed people to turn me into. Naturally a genuine and caring person, I rarely receive that in return. I would alter my virtues and treat others the way they treated me, but that didn’t make me any happier. In fact, it made me feel worse. So, I decided to just be me and expect nothing back in return. If I wanted to go out of my way for someone, I would do it happily and not worry about if they would do the same for me. Helping people and seeing the joy in others fuels my own happiness, and that’s what’s most important.
Passion For Passion
People are passionate about what you’re passionate about. I stopped asking myself “Am I talented enough” or “Is my work good enough”. I am talented and my work is good enough because I say it is. When approaching certain situations with this attitude, the feedback was more positive, and in turn, fueled my confidence. All things in this world are subjective, so it’s up to you to make people see and understand the magnificence of your self-expression.
This year was filled with triumph, understanding, challenges, strength, imperfection, and self-love, and I’d love to share some of the highlights with you.
I’m Thankful For:
Writing my first feature film.
The best birthday gift a girl can ask for, meeting the handsome and talented Kofi Siriboe and attending a Q&A with my future mentor Ava Duvernay.
Working at some great companies like AwesomenessTV, Truly Original, and working on the feature film Lost Holiday, the television show Real Housewives of Atlanta (and got to go to Essence’s cover shoot featuring Kandi Burruss), and the pilot Going Places with David Rees for the Travel Channel.
Working alongside people like Isiah Whitlock Jr., Snooki and Jwoww from Jersey Shore, Johnathan Scott from Property Brothers, and former Vice President of the United States Al Gore.
Traveling to Huntsville, AL. I really didn’t know what to expect. It was an amazing trip that dispelled a lot of the stereotypes I had about Alabama. Huntsville is a great city and I will definitely be back to visit again.
Visiting the National Museum of African American History and Culture.
VIVA LA CUBA!! I got to experience the beautiful country of Cuba. It was magical and definitely a destination I plan to re-visit multiple times in my life.
Launching my blog. This was a big deal for me. Usually, a private and withdrawn person, launching a blog with my face at the forefront of it really pushed me out of my comfort zone.
Most of all I’m thankful for all the clarity, growth, and failure that 2017 brought me. I’ve never learned so much about myself in one year.
Cheers To A New Year!
For 2018 I plan to keep my New Year’s resolution from last year and continue to take life as it comes. 2018 is already looking to be a great and monumental year.
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Let’s finish 2017 strong and enter 2018 with full force!
Here are some of my best moments: